Wellcultured - A men's fashion, fitness, sex, and lifestyle magazine.

Geek-brand Misogyny

Written by Mr. WellCultured, Tuesday, September 22nd, 2009 in Q&As

My friend is geeky and he likes a lot of anime and games and cards and stuff. Problem is he now is talking about how girls are ‘b—-s’ and how no girls are ‘worth it’. Advice?

I like to call this geek-brand misogyny, and it’s out there a lot more than you think. Here’s how to deal with it in a nutshell.

First off, understand where this comes from- it’s not entirely strange to think like your friend. Many geeks find, through various circumstances, that “real” women (i.e. the kinds of girls they want and/or admire or whatever) are inaccessible- and through some interesting mental processes, rather than thinking “I want and I cannot have”, they think “I don’t want so it’s not an issue”. This, tied in with the way in which games/anime/eroge/the like portray women in “perfect” lights, really develops a unique kind of woman hating energy that can really come across as crass.

This is also why dating sims/eroge/romance anime exist, in sort of a circular way- they exist because geeks want idyllic women because real women don’t seem good enough because they play/watch because geeks want idyllic women (etc etc).

So what do I recommend you do?

First off, help him find opportunities to approach and interact with real, interesting women. Do not let him become excessively attached (many “Geek-brand misogynists” ironically do this easily), but let him actually go out and do things with real women in groups- re-orient him to real, breathing, interesting, and normal women. Do not let him recede into his fantasy world- shove him out there and make him stay there to the best of your ability.

Once you begin that, it may be best to enlist some (female) help. While you’re shoving them out there, get some female buddies to help him pull further out of his shell- let them help him meet interesting people, and let them do some of the heavy lifting with him. This doesn’t have to be a full out intervention- the more subtle, arguably the better- but let them try using their own skills. Guys can only do so much in this situation.

Finally, remember that if he’s like this, he might simply not change. While I admire you wanting to help him, if he’s adamant, there’s not much you can do. He might have to learn on his own time, unfortunately.

Tags: , , , , ,

3 Responses to Geek-brand Misogyny

  1. 3d pig disgusting says:

    I barfed at the sole thought of being with a 3d girl. Ewwwww

  2. Morghus says:

    If the guy has a lot of female friends interested in helping him like this, and he’s still having a boner for some made-up girl, then he needs a different type of help.

    The problem for most of the target demographic is that they’re afraid of rejection and further negative social incidents, hampered by insecurity and a lack of interaction with women.

    In my experience, most of the cases are the ones with little to no female friends, and will continue to be like this until something happens in their lives to change it. Like suddenly meeting a fun and interesting girl that takes an interest in him, most likely online.

  3. Jimmy Jimbo Joey Jojo Jones Junior says:

    This is all straw. It’s the law of attraction again bringing to you the essence of what you’re thinking. So the nerds have attracted to them a negative thought and are perpetually re-living that experience. All they need to do is come to a new thought about the thing and their reality switches into something new and different. Women also have this problem and it’s the same solution for them too. That’s all that’s going on here. Same process pretty much everywhere you look.

Leave a Reply

  • Latest Question

    Should I go to a community college before I go to a 4-year college? Looks cheaper.

    Read our Answer More Questions and Answers Ask a Question
  • Latest Articles

  • Latest Discussion

  • About Wellcultured

    Well Cultured is a men's online magazine with advice and reviews on fashion, fitness, dating, lifestyle, and many other topics. About Us
  • http://www.wellcultured.com/feed">RSS Feed | Contact Us | Terms of Use/Privacy Policy
    WellCultured is powered by WordPress.