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So many relationships are made and broken based on the communication that exists between a man and a woman.  There is one small detail that guys seem to overlook and this is the thing that makes men and women who they are.  We are very different types of beings that operate and think on two completely different wavelenths.  Men have this inate feeling that he is a critical thinker and a problem solver.  Give a man a task and he will do whatever it takes to complete the task all by himself.   Contrary to how men operate, women want to approach situations all at once.  A woman will take everything that is currently happening in her life and she will basically list it all according to priorities.  This is why guys prefer to work alone while women will actively seek to employ anyone who is willing to help.

Readers of this site will undoubtedly, if they haven’t already, go through one of many scenarios with women where they will appear to be illogical and their thoughts inconsequential.  One such scenario in a relationship is the classic I want to talk / I want to relax situation.  When a man has a hard day of work or classes, his first desire is to relax in a way that he can focus his brain 95% on the relaxation and 5% on whatever else is happening around him.  The woman on the other hand has a completely different method for dealing with stress.  The woman is more inclined to talking about what is stressing her which seems like a fantastic attempt at making herself more overwhelmed than she already is.

When the man and the woman enter into this potentially hostile territory, the man will instinctively react in two ways.  First, the man will be frustrated by the woman’s advances.  When a man is stressed, he wants to lose himself in whatever activity gives him pleasure.  Any outside interference that persists, will trigger a defense mechanism that makes him snap at the woman.  Second, if the man initiates conversation with the woman, he will offer advice to her when she starts listing off her problems.  The problem with this approach is that the man simply does not “get it.”  A woman does not talk to her girlfriends to get advice, she simply talks just to talk.

This fundamental difference between how men and women communicate can cause tension and feelings of resentment.  When a man is in a relationship, it’s in his best interest to listen to what the woman has to say.  It’s a simple concept but men and women tend to forget that they are different.  This can also apply to men that are “on the market.”  Despite what this site says about the “Friend Zone” often it is best to be friends with a girl before you initiate the relationship.  The “Friend Zone” while true in some aspects, it is really a horrible guide line for who women see as potential mates.  Don’t even get me started on the Ladder Theory, it has the same horrible ignorance as Mein Kampf and paints an equally terrible picture of who women really are.  If you really want to validate yourself to a girl, it’s not how good you are in bed, but how good you listen to what she has to say.

Tags: Dating, Love, Women