When to kiss a date?
Written by Kirk, Wednesday, November 19th, 2008 in Q&AsI’ve had two successful, laid-back dates with a great girl. After the second one, I walked her up to her porch, but didn’t make a move to kiss her. It felt like I missed a chance - I was getting a good vibe from her. Was I too timid? Should I definitely make a move next time (providing it feels right)?
This is one of those really really really tough questions.
Short answer? There is no way to determine when you should kiss. It’s a spur-of-the-moment thing.
Long answer? There isn’t a way to determine when you should kiss, mainly because every girl is different, especially when it comes to stuff like this. Some girls (the more reserved ones, mainly) tend to have a general idea of a number of dates or “time” when it is right- some girls don’t kiss (or screw, for some) before the third date, others do. This also compounds when you take into consideration that she might just not be feeling it, or she may BE feeling it and you just don’t- something like that.
My advice? Go for it, but try to read in beforehand. Is she responsive and close to you? Girls who stay far away from you (i.e. don’t touch you, don’t stay near you while walking, are afraid of grazing against you) are not going to want to be kissed- at least, not too quickly. However, if she’s displaying obvious signs of attraction (lingering, looking at you, not carrying an extreme sense of personal space), you can go for it.
Yes, this is difficult. Everyone has this trouble. I’m not the type to advise asking beforehand (for some, it may be cute, for others, it may be creepy), but just try to be careful and do it right. And make it unexpected, too, that’s always fun for them.
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Is it weird that I have sex on the third date? lol A kiss usually happens on the first and making out on the second. Though not that many of my relationships last more than a month… Of course, I’m also dating guys, so… I guess we have different expectations.
i found with my current gf that if you are…whats the word …unique i suppose with the action…it works well. She and I were in the theatre on our first date and i had my arm around her and shes quite ticklish and i tickled her a bit and she said “no tickles haha” and i said “no tickling??…how bout a kiss then ? ” and she turned to me and smiled and i leaned in and kissed her…sometimes you have to be ‘aww’-like to get things done