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I found this girl who is really awesome, but she has a lot of guy friends. I think she’s really cool until her guys come over and then it’s not really easy to talk to her. She always talks about other guys, and I can’t get an “in”. What do I do?

You’ve probably run into a type of girl who, for the lack of a better term, I will term the “Histrionic Type”.

Histrionic girls are girls that are generally heavily attention-seeking, friend-making, and seem to have a kind of hyper-attention to social status. Most people describe girls like this as “social” and “fun”, and they tend to get really high prestige in their “worlds”- some may be sorority presidents, others might be just group leaders. On one hand, this is a very good thing- being good at social situations allows them to be really amicable, fun, and wholly enjoyable in many senses, and you can really feed off their energy. However, there’s a caveat- romantically, girls like this are arguably the hardest to get.

My general recommendation here is to tread lightly- you probably don’t want to deal with this kind of situation. The immediate issue is evident: as most girls like this have a lot of guy friends (they sometimes have more guy friends than girl friends- there are many reasons, I often find it correlates with a lack of fatherly involvement, but whatever), and trying to compete with every single one of them (who probably want her just as much) is incredibly difficult.

Long story short, if you do want to go for her, find a way to make yourself different. It will be arduous, but I’m sure you can come up with something. Remember, you’re facing off against a lot of guys she probably has with her who want her just like you do- I’d be careful.

Tags: Dating, girls, histrionic