Hey. So, I’ve gotten over a lot of my insecurities, realizing they were stupid and childish, but there is one I cannot feel good about. I have no car, and should I go on a date, I’d have to stick to public deportation. Any suggestions? Thanks.
Fundamentally, a girl should never not date you based on you having or not having a car- it would be as ridiculous as you doing the same for her. However, for obvious reasons, the logistics can play a nasty part- so here’s what I recommend you do.
First off, find dates you can do without a car- make it clear you can do stuff without transportation. Take a bus if you must. Go to HER- don’t make her come to you initially- prove you’re willing to go the extra mile. Initially, if you force her to have to come to you, it may set her off a bit- but doubtless if she grew to like you, that wouldn’t be an issue.
Secondly, make it clear you not having a car isn’t related to your stability. There’s a ridiculous presumption that most girls have that guys that do not have a car/house of their own are losers. Prove your date differently- dress well, go to a nice restaurant, and have a very clean and neat atmosphere about you. Don’t mention the car unless you have to- just make it clear it’s because of circumstance, not because you’re a 12 year old in your mom’s basement. I’m not saying to flash your cash too much, but make it clear.
Finally, don’t be insecure. I know that’s ridiculous to say, but you shouldn’t have to be- she shouldn’t have any reason to critique you based on the availability of a car. If you’re confident enough, you could run around on a tricycle in Gap Kids clothing and she’d still like you. Rock what you have, not what you want.
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