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Yesterday, I posted on the forums about a website that I recently stumbled upon: UrbanCougar.com, the site that bills itself as “a celebration of the urbancougar lifestyle, the women who embody it, and the prey who love them for it!”. Long story short? A website for older women hunting for younger men (mainly in bars)- and younger men who idolize them.

The term “Cougar” has become more popular as of recent due to the movie Oceans 13, but it has been around for quite a while- as older women seek younger men. The fact of the matter is, so far as sexual maturity is concerned, the “theory” (or the supposed “science”) is that women are in their sexual prime much later than men, though obviously their childbearing years are much earlier. Men are supposed to be at their prime in their mid-20s, whereas women at their 30s+, and so-on.

Here’s the question: is it fair game to go after older women? Many cougars are actually married- leading one down the inevitable path of determining if hitting on older married women is actually fair or not. Even when single, many say that they feel that being a boy-toy is a bit of a bad position to place oneself in- as, obviously, your competiton (older than you) will have more money and stability, making you a temporary sexual plaything. On the other side, many argue that age is simply a number, and that older women deserve the same pleasures as younger women- and older ones often are more mature and less dramatic.

So, it’s time for yet another Sex Q&A- would you be comfortable with it?

My opinion is a mix of the above. First off, you should never hit on married women (if they can be wooed away by you, they can be wooed away from you by other men). However, I think that to some degree, the presumption that staying in your age group can be somewhat childish. If you have a thing for an older woman (or if she has a thing for you), there’s not much wrong with it so long as you treat it like a normal relationship. So far as websites like UrbanCougar are concerned, however, I think that promoting some bullshit “sexual awareness” (translation: the will to screw anything young with a pulse) is BS.

Thoughts?

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