How do I find more dominant girls?
Written by Kirk, Sunday, August 31st, 2008 in Q&AsBasically, I want to find a girl who is able and willing to be the ‘man’ of the relationship. Willing to swap the gender roles and enjoy it. How do I find these girls?
Well, this is difficult.
My first reaction to your question is to say that it’s very difficult to find girls who are of a specific interest like that, but the rule of thumb has always been to go where girls you like may congregate. The mantra has always been simple in this regard- if you like sporty girls, don’t look for them in libraries, look for them in athletic clubs. Similarly, while I can’t think of anything that would particularly apply in this case, if you want a girl who is more dominant, you may want to look somewhere that you may find them- I’ve always felt that more domineering girls are in stuff like Political Science or Gender Politics type groups/clubs, especialy in Highschool/College, but it may differ on where you are.
The best advice I can give you is go hunting online (yes, for the first time I’m advocating staying online rather than improving yourself online). Go to a dating site- I’ve covered the basics of this before. Go on there and take a personality test (or whatever they have) and answer the obvious questions pertaining to your interests (i.e. try to make it obvious you want a more submissive role) and see where the site takes you. Whenever you have more arcane interests, you are best suited looking online first, as I doubt there is a “league of dominant women looking for submissive men” in your community.
In any case, good luck.
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I think an important thing to address here is why does this guy want a woman who is exceptionally dominant? I think he needs to do some serious self-analysis because there’s a good chance that the only reason he wants a woman who will take the lead is because he’s too afraid (or doesn’t know how) to take the lead himself.
If you ask me (which you didn’t, but I don’t give a fuck), you need to work on your self-confidence, and learn how to take on more of a leadership role. Then you won’t feel like you need to hunt for only one very rare kind of woman (essentially a woman who acts like a man); you will be able to have a relationship with any kind of woman because you will be able to be a leader.
The fact of the matter is, women are not evolutionarily programmed to be the dominant one in a relationship. That’s not to say women are weak - far from it - but the vast majority of women like it when the man takes the lead, when he is in control.
Working on your self-confidence and leadership skills will not only help you in your relationships with women, but in all aspects of your life: work, school, etc.
Just something to think about.